We had a wonderful time at PWC last week with our guest Janee Harrell teaching about finding our identity in Christ. It was a great lesson teaching us to be open, honest and real. Also, this week Curt and I celebrated our anniversary. Here’s a few thoughts about marriage that I want to share with you.
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times – always with the same person.” M. McLaughlin
This week Curt and I celebrated 28 years of marriage! Can you believe it? I know you must be thinking that we got married when we were 12 years old by looking at our pictures, right? Okay, at least I was hoping you were thinking that. As far as marriage is concerned, the reality is every marriage has its unique set of challenges, because we are two unique people, with two unique sin patterns joining together to try to live life as one.
It’s not always easy, but marriage can certainly be a joy and a blessing not only to you as a couple, but to your kids and your community. It’s worth working on and fighting for, because God uses marriage as a foundational structure of society. And who can deny that our society desperately needs good strong marriages today to help our next generation on their way? Here’s a few important thoughts in strengthening your marriage that we’ve tried to implement in our home.
Forgive and ask forgiveness often.
Pray together every night before going to sleep.
Build each other up with words and kind actions.
Do not put down your spouse with your words.
Encourage each other’s gifts, talents and interests.
Go on dates together as often as possible.
Look to the Lord (not your spouse) to meet your emotional needs.
Examine your own heart instead of always blaming your spouse.
One last thought, this week on Family Life Today radio I heard a couple share their story of how God resurrected their dead marriage to become a loving and vibrant relationship in Christ. They reminded the listeners that if we really believe that God raised Jesus from the dead, then why can’t we believe that this same God can resurrect dead marriages. If you are currently struggling to hold your marriage together I want to first encourage you to seek God’s help and visit a Biblically-based counselor. I also want to encourage you to go to the Family Life website ( www.familylife.com ) as a great resource.