Secrets to a Happy Marriage

Curt and me

This week my husband and I celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary. While no marriage is perfect, there are a few things that can strengthen the relationship between husband and wife. Here’s my short list of ways to increase the happiness in your marriage and keep the home fires burning.

Positive Practices

  • Communicate in a loving tone
  • Pray together every day
  • Forgive, forgive, forgive – continually
  • Maintain hope
  • Listen well
  • See the best in your spouse
  • Smile, laugh, go on dates together
  • Build on your common interests and hobbies
  • Appreciate the differences
  • Overlook the small stuff
  • Greet your spouse with joy (take a lesson from your dog on this one)
  • Reflect on what brought you together in the first place
  • Agree to disagree at times
  • Be a content and joyful person
  • Find your identity in Christ, not your spouse


Some Don’ts:

  • Don’t use the words “always” or “never”
  • Don’t demand your own way or think you know it all
  • Don’t nab and nit-pick at each other
  • Don’t hold on to past offenses or grudges
  • Don’t let technology isolate you and diminish your communication
  • Don’t depend on your spouse for your own personal happiness


The apostle Paul described love this way, “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.  It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” (I Corinthians 13)

I don’t know about you, but I fall short of that description of love in many ways. The good news is, this description of love gives us a picture of God’s love toward us. How wonderful to know that God genuinely loves us and that we can ask Him to pour His love through us. May His love be very real in your life today.

The Greatest Love

florist woman smiling with white wicker basket flowers of  primroses

Our PWC lesson this month focused on authentic love. We explored Romans 12:9-13 to discover the beautiful portrait of what true love looks like. One of our PWC members wrote the following poem several years ago and shared it with me after the lesson. I’m thankful for this poetic expression of the greatest love we can experience. This week, invite God’s love to flow through you as you encourage the hearts of those God puts in your path.

The Greatest is Love

By Lisa Simmons

It’s not what I speak

no matter how sweet

It’s not in how smart
but what’s in my heart
that shows love
I can give all away
and still be the same
I can show that I’m strong
and be just as wrong
without love
Love suffers long and is kind
Love does not envy
or fill up with pride
Love is not rude
Nor seek its own
love thinks no evil
and doesn’t throw stones
Love is not glad
when you’re luck has run out
Love tells the truth
with no room for doubt
Love bears, believes and hopes all things
Love endures
and gives us reason to sing
Two things that are closely held
Faith and Hope are great as well
But the one most important from above
Cannot be measured-
The greatest is Love

Join us next month at PWC on March 22 as we learn about “How to Succeed in Everyday Interactions” based on Romans 12:14-16.