Making a Difference for Generations to Come

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What tugs at your heart-strings? For me, my heart hurts deeply for children who are growing up in unstable environments.  Domestic violence, emotional distress, poverty or adversity tend to create chaos for these tender and impressionable hearts. Several years ago, I decided to reach into the lives of parents in at-risk communities and offer parenting discussion groups to encourage parents to create positive interaction with their kids.

I called the program ENGAGE Positive Parenting Initiative. ENGAGE stands for Equipping the Next Generation to Advance and Grow through Education, Encouragement and Example (our three core values). We are expanding and growing and now have classes in five locations. My vision for ENGAGE is to expand across the nation using our powerful and unique discussion-style format to reach parents.

As the author of over twenty parenting books, I have designed this program to reach parents where they are at and empower them to rise up to their own responsibility in the home. My desire is for parents to encourage and equip their kids to use their God-given gifts to make a difference in this world. If you share my desire to make a difference in society by strengthening parent’s responsibility in the home, I invite you to join me on this journey.  There are three ways to connect:

  • Join us as a volunteer to lead a parenting class.*
  • Connect us with community outreaches in your city.*
  • Donate to help provide materials for parents and expand our reach.

North Texas Giving day is a one-day opportunity to expand your giving. On Thursday, Sept 17 please consider giving to your favorite organizations  – and my hope is that ENGAGE will be one of them.

Here’s the link that will be live at 6:00 am to midnight on Thursday Sept 17.  Important note: You must put ENGAGE in the notes so that the donation will go to ENGAGE.

link:  http://www.northtexasgivingday.org/#npo/provenway-ministries.

To learn more about ENGAGE go to: www.engageparenting.com

                                       

*To volunteer or connect us with an organization in your area please contact us at engageparenting@gmail.com

Don’t Simply Tell Your Kids They’re Great

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In their book Nurture Shock, authors Bronson and Merryman site a study of fifth graders which revealed that kids who were praised for “being smart” did not perform as well as those who were encouraged for their effort.  The study found that “emphasizing effort gives a child a variable that they can control,” but when kids were praised for just being smart, they tended to discount the importance of their own effort.

 

Simply telling children a blanket statement like, “You’re great,” may bolster their ego for a moment, but it won’t necessarily help them in the long run. Yet, parents shouldn’t be too quick to swing the pendulum in the other direction either. Research also shows that when encouragement is given in the right way, it can be a powerfully motivating factor in our children’s lives. How do parents know how to encourage their kids without overindulging? Here are a few tried and true principles to follow:

 

  • Be sincere and specific when praising your kids.
  • Commend your kids for their effort and hard work.
  • Guard against comparing your kids to others, and instead encourage personal bests.
  • Notice and highlight positive actions which your kids choose to exhibit toward others such as kindness, patience, sharing and compassion.
  • Encourage learning and growth through their challenges and mistakes.
  • Teach your kids the importance of encouraging and cheering for others.

 

Instead of simply telling your kids that they are awesome, use precise words to highlight their hard work, wise choices and honest achievements. When we offer sincere and specific words of affirmation, we not only give the gift of encouragement to our child, but we tie it with a bow and attach a note that says, this is meant only for you. Let us be givers of good gifts through our words and our presence.

For more keys to being a positive parent check out:

The Power of a Positive Mom – www.positivewomanconnection.com/books

POPM- 2015 A portion of the proceeds from the sale of this book goes to ENGAGE Parenting Initiative, encouraging moms in at-risk communities. www.EngageParenting.com