Don’t Let Comparisons Slow You Down

Women ready to race on track field

If you have ever watched track and field events, you know that a split second makes all the difference, especially in sprint races. If a competitor in the 100 meter sprint takes even a second to glance at the runners on either side of her – she’s lost the race. In running as well as in life, we must learn to keep our eyes on our own race and not become distracted by comparing ourselves with others. Easier said than done, right? As women, we so quickly begin to compare with the other women around us. Often it happens the moment we walk into a room with other women. Am I as thin as she is? Do I fit in here? Why can’t my hair look as good as hers does? I wish I had her complexion.
It’s a trap each one of us can easily stumble into, and in the process we become dissatisfied with who we are and what God has planned for us. We tend to lose sight of what our purpose is in life. Perhaps that’s why the apostle Paul, with his powerfully purpose-filled life, was able to say, “I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God is calling me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” Just as a sprinter keeps her eye on the goal or the finish line, so we need to keep our eyes fixed on the purpose God has given us and not be distracted by envy, jealousy or comparisons. True maturity is when we can look with joy at how God is blessing others and sincerely be thankful for the way God uses each one of us in a variety ways and in different styles.
There is only one you. God made you with a unique set of gifts and talents and with a distinctive purpose in this world. When we keep our eyes on the fact that God is at work in and through us to accomplish what He put us on this earth to do, we begin to feel a joyful confidence. We can rejoice in our assignment in the big scheme of life. On the other hand, when we start looking at everyone else and begin to compare ourselves with others, we either become prideful or we become jealous. Comparisons tend to zap us of our strength, distract us from our purpose and throw us off course from our goals.
The writer of Hebrews encourages us, “Let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” So here’s a few tips to remember when it comes to comparisons:
• Guard your mind against comparing with others by turning your focus upwards.
• Ask for God’s help and direction as you use your unique gifts and talents.
• Open your eyes to the blessings that God has given you right now.
• Thank Him for His unique plan for your life every day.
• Rejoice in who the Lord is and the work He is doing in your life as well as in others.
• Be happy with others for the good things happening in their lives.

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Make Your Mountains into Learning Experiences

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When I was in high school, my mother took me to a lecture presented by Sir Edmund Hillary. I must admit, at the time I was not overly excited about hearing some old guy talk about how he climbed a mountain. It wasn’t until he started speaking that I realized this man had accomplished a feat that was considered unconquerable. This was a man who faced the seemingly impossible, pushed past the limitations and climbed to the top of Mount Everest. Before his successful expedition in 1953, numerous groups had tried and failed to reach the summit. Even within his own expedition group, all but two of the climbers turned back because of exhaustion at the high altitude.

Despite the obstacles, discouragement and even abandonment of his group, Sir Edmund Hillary persevered. His accomplishment was celebrated worldwide and his influence inspired many others to reach toward their own personal goals. Oddly, Sir Edmund originally earned his living as a beekeeper in New Zealand. He started climbing mountains in his own country as a bit of a hobby. Little by little he progressed to climbing the Alps and eventually the Himalayas. The small mountains led to bigger mountains, preparing him to conquer the highest mountain – Mount Everest.

What are the mountains in your life? Mountains come in all shapes and sizes. They may be in the form of a difficult work relationship or a rebellious child or an overwhelming project that keeps you up at night. Some mountains may develop in our lives in the form of financial issues or a troubled marriage or even trying to lose weight. Actually, there are also mountains in our lives that aren’t expressly negative, some of our greatest mountains may include starting a new business or learning a new skill set or language.

Each mountain that we scale in life, strengthens us and prepares us to face grander mountains ahead. Whether we choose the mountain or the mountain chooses us, we still have a choice as to how we will deal with it. We can either look at the mountains in our lives and grumble and complain about them, or we can choose to begin to climb them and conquer them. The secret to rising to the top of any mountain rests in our attitude and ability to persevere. Sir Edmund Hillary said, “It’s not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves.” From beekeeper to record breaker, Hillary conquered fears, discouragements and failures. It didn’t all happen at once, but he grew from each experience. We too can look at each mountain in our lives as an opportunity to grow and become stronger women.

Father, help us to see the challenges as opportunities to grow and trust You. Thank you that You will never leave us, and that You provide strength and guidance for those who seek You. In Jesus name, Amen

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Be Strong!

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Generally speaking most of us tend to enjoy the easier path in life rather than choosing to go down a rough or difficult road. But when we consider the great men and women who were used by God in the Bible, most of them walked the more challenging path.  Noah, Abraham, Moses, Joshua, Daniel, Deborah, Esther, Ruth – each stepped forward in faith and courage despite the difficulties and perils they faced.

There are times in each of our lives when we are called, not to take it easy, but rather to be strong and courageous. As we see the moral and spiritual shift in our culture today, we may be facing new and different challenges as followers of Christ. This is the time when our roots must grow deep in our faith in Christ, and we need to grow strong in the knowledge of God’s Word.

It’s time to live lives of purpose and vision. We must speak the truth in love, knowing that no matter how loving we may be, some will misunderstand us and others may persecute us. Trust God to equip you and prepare you to speak wisely, serve lovingly and live courageously. Spend time each day in His Word so that you may know, love and depend on His transforming truth.

Be strong!

We are not here to play, to dream, to drift;

We have hard work to do, and loads to lift.

Shun not the struggle; face it.

It’s God’s gift.

 

Be strong!

Say not the days are evil – Who’s to blame?

Or fold your hands, as in defeat – O Shame!

Stand up, speak out, and bravely,

In God’s name.

 

Be strong!

It matters not how deep entrenched  the wrong,

How hard the battle goes, the day how long,

Faint not, fight on!

Tomorrow comes the song.  By Maltbie D. Babcock

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