Making a Difference for Generations to Come

September 15, 2015Leave a comment

What tugs at your heart-strings? For me, my heart hurts deeply for children who are growing up in unstable environments. Domestic violence, emotional distress, poverty or adversity tend to create chaos for these tender and impressionable hearts. Several years ago, I decided to reach into the lives of parents in at-risk communities and offer parenting discussion groups to encourage parents to create positive interaction with their kids.

I called the program ENGAGE Positive Parenting Initiative. ENGAGE stands for Equipping the Next Generation to Advance and Grow through Education, Encouragement and Example (our three core values). We are expanding and growing and now have classes in five locations. My vision for ENGAGE is to expand across the nation using our powerful and unique discussion-style format to reach parents.

As the author of over twenty parenting books, I have designed this program to reach parents where they are at and empower them to rise up to their own responsibility in the home. My desire is for parents to encourage and equip their kids to use their God-given gifts to make a difference in this world. If you share my desire to make a difference in society by strengthening parent’s responsibility in the home, I invite you to join me on this journey. There are three ways to connect:

Join us as a volunteer to lead a parenting class.*
Connect us with community outreaches in your city.*
Donate to help provide materials for parents and expand our reach.

North Texas Giving day is a one-day opportunity to expand your giving. On Thursday, Sept 17 please consider giving to your favorite organizations – and my hope is that ENGAGE will be one of them.

Here’s the link that will be live at 6:00 am to midnight on Thursday Sept 17. Important note: You must put ENGAGE in the notes so that the donation will go to ENGAGE.

link: http://www.northtexasgivingday.org/#npo/provenway-ministries.

To learn more about ENGAGE go to: www.engageparenting.com

*To volunteer or connect us with an organization in your area please contact us at engageparenting@gmail.com

Truths from the Truck

September 9, 2015Leave a comment

My daughter is getting married soon and will be living in New York. I knew the day would come when we would need to transport most of her things from Dallas to her new home, but I wasn’t sure exactly how we would do it. Our thrill-seeking, adventurous spirit kicked in, and my daughter and I decided to rent a Penske truck and make this journey into a four-day, mother/daughter road trip (#modaroadtrip2k15).

We plotted out our course through Memphis, Knoxville, Virginia and into the Big Apple, driving through 12 states in 4 days. We had friends and family to stay with along the way, which completely enriched the experience. We also did a little antique shopping here and there and met some quite unique people! My daughter and I agree that it was a road trip to remember.

A few life lessons evolved for me personally along the way, and I’d like to briefly share them with you.

Face your Fears – We planned and prayed and even had a multitude of friends praying for our truck-travels, but I must admit several nights before we left I was stricken with fear. What if the truck breaks down (even though Penske has 24/7 roadside assistance), what if we run into bad weather, what if we have an accident, and how in the world am I going to drive a Penske truck into NYC? Even the best-laid plans leave room for fears to pop in your head! I finally realized that there are simply times when we must step forward and not let fear hold us back. Every decision in life comes with risks. The question is, are you going to let your fears rule you or are you going to step forward knowing that you never travel alone – almighty God will never leave us. Oddly, this year my theme verse is from 2 Timothy 1:7, God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.
Joyfully Serve Others –Often we learn the greatest lessons when we are the recipients of someone else’s kind hospitality. We had the privilege of staying with the Bentley’s in Tennessee. Chuck Bentley is the CEO of Crown Financial Ministries (www.crown.org). Chuck and his wife Ann had just returned from several weeks in Asia, and yet welcomed us into their home despite their jet lag. We had a wonderful time visiting about life and ministry and travel. When it came time for us to leave, Chuck noticed that our windshield on the truck was a mess (an abundant collection of dead bugs), and without saying a word he grabbed his windex bottle and a towel and began cleaning. Here is the president of an international organization cleaning my windshield! It was a modern day washing our feet. Ann joined in and started cleaning the inside windows, then she packed us a goody bag and filled up our cooler full of waters. Their joyful servant spirit inspired me to never miss an opportunity to show Christ’s love in a tangible way.
Make Marvelous Memories – Grace and I had hours of time together to laugh, talk, listen and discuss. We experienced gifts from strangers, the beauty of the Appalachian Mountains, and the exhaustion of loading and unloading – all built a glorious mosaic of memories. Perhaps one of my fondest memories was sitting with my aunt Margy in Virginia on September 7, the day of my mom’s (Margy’s sister) birthday. Mom passed away over 20 years ago. Since we were there on mom’s birthday, Margy made one of my mom’s favorite breakfast casseroles. I asked her to share some stories about growing up with my mom. We laughed with joy and teared-up with tender emotion. Now that was a memorable morning.

So if I can leave you with a few truck-adventure truths, I would say live deliberately. Don’t let fear hold you back, always look for ways you can help other people, and take time to create sweet memories with your loved ones along the way.

Reaching Out to Strengthen Others

September 3, 2015September 3, 2015Leave a comment

Guest Post by Arlene Pellicane

September 1, 2015Leave a comment

Don’t Miss the Giggles

See end of post for book Giveaway: 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Mom

It was my first time meeting with the Sales Director and the VP of Marketing at the publishing house of my first book. Think power breakfast in the big leagues. And do you know what I introduced as the first topic of conversation?

“My husband James took our two-year-old daughter to the bathroom this morning and she went number two for the first time in the toilet!”

Yes, I really said that.

Our daily lives as moms are filled with the laughable, absurd, quotable, darling, hilarious, and at times downright crude. Today I want to challenge you to find the funny in it all. If you look around with a light heart and eyes wide open, you’ll find plenty of material for hours of stand-up comedy.

When my daughter was five, Noelle called tangerines “tambourines.” As we went through the grocery store, she excitedly pointed and said, “Oh, let’s get some tambourines!” That made a grandma standing nearby smile. “My grandson calls shampoo ‘Shamu’!” she said.

My son Ethan called the chocolate malt balls “Whoopers” instead of “Whoppers.” Lucy insisted on being called “Cinderwella.” I’m sure you have a list of these funny sayings too if your children are young. Write them down while you remember. Keep a journal of funny moments with your kids.

It says in Proverbs 17:22 that “a cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” Here you see the correlation between your inward life and your physical and mental health. This verse is about your ability to persevere through the years. The word medicine only occurs here in the Old Testament. A crushed spirit refers to being depressed or sad.

The Bible gives us an antidote to depression, sadness, and deteriorating health: a cheerful heart. A happy heart. Other translations say a merry heart. The idea here is someone who is delightful, full of festivity and high spirits, and joyous. Don’t worry if you feel too Eeyore-like to fit this description. Chances are you have some kids around who can help you laugh more frequently.

Sometimes the lifeline out of fatigue and the doldrums comes through the funny comments of your children. That is, if you make the point to notice and cherish those moments. And giggle!

GIVEAWAY INFO: We are giving away a copy of Arlene’s new book, 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Mom Email me at Karol@Karolladd.com with subject line Book Giveaway, and I will randomly select a winner.

Arlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Mom and 31 Days to a Happy Husband. She is also the co-author of Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids in a Screen-Driven World (with Gary Chapman). She has been a featured guest on the Today Show, Fox & Friends, Focus on the Family, FamilyLife Today, The 700 Club, and Turning Point with Dr. David Jeremiah.

Arlene lives in the San Diego area with her husband James and their three children.

To learn more and for free family resources such as a monthly Happy Home podcast, visit www.ArlenePellicane.com

Video link: https://youtu.be/SV2ewzM1THE

Don’t Let Comparisons Slow You Down

August 23, 2015August 23, 2015Leave a comment

If you have ever watched track and field events, you know that a split second makes all the difference, especially in sprint races. If a competitor in the 100 meter sprint takes even a second to glance at the runners on either side of her – she’s lost the race. In running as well as in life, we must learn to keep our eyes on our own race and not become distracted by comparing ourselves with others. Easier said than done, right? As women, we so quickly begin to compare with the other women around us. Often it happens the moment we walk into a room with other women. Am I as thin as she is? Do I fit in here? Why can’t my hair look as good as hers does? I wish I had her complexion.
It’s a trap each one of us can easily stumble into, and in the process we become dissatisfied with who we are and what God has planned for us. We tend to lose sight of what our purpose is in life. Perhaps that’s why the apostle Paul, with his powerfully purpose-filled life, was able to say, “I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God is calling me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” Just as a sprinter keeps her eye on the goal or the finish line, so we need to keep our eyes fixed on the purpose God has given us and not be distracted by envy, jealousy or comparisons. True maturity is when we can look with joy at how God is blessing others and sincerely be thankful for the way God uses each one of us in a variety ways and in different styles.
There is only one you. God made you with a unique set of gifts and talents and with a distinctive purpose in this world. When we keep our eyes on the fact that God is at work in and through us to accomplish what He put us on this earth to do, we begin to feel a joyful confidence. We can rejoice in our assignment in the big scheme of life. On the other hand, when we start looking at everyone else and begin to compare ourselves with others, we either become prideful or we become jealous. Comparisons tend to zap us of our strength, distract us from our purpose and throw us off course from our goals.
The writer of Hebrews encourages us, “Let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith.” So here’s a few tips to remember when it comes to comparisons:
• Guard your mind against comparing with others by turning your focus upwards.
• Ask for God’s help and direction as you use your unique gifts and talents.
• Open your eyes to the blessings that God has given you right now.
• Thank Him for His unique plan for your life every day.
• Rejoice in who the Lord is and the work He is doing in your life as well as in others.
• Be happy with others for the good things happening in their lives.

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